It all depends on how we look at things, and not how they are in themselves.
If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment.
“… understanding why so many religious rituals contain an element of suffering, and why extreme rituals persist for centuries.”
Taking part in extreme, painful rituals increases prosocial behaviours and attitudes, including making people more charitable.
The awakening mind is generated
in dependence on sentient beings.
But like the saying,
“whatever you do when wearing an iron helmet is unpleasant”
to entertain such thoughts,
that wherever you are you feel vexed
when encountering other beings who displease you,
is like being unhappy with the causes of enlightenment.
Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.
If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your partner.